Being Effective Part 5

Did someone say something that sort of offends you? So what? That’s their problem. Did someone look at you the wrong way? Who cares? Replace the petty thoughts of anger, jealousy and spite with thoughts of strength.

Maybe you didn’t get the promotion you thought you deserved, and you think it’s because of office politics. That could very well be true, but will your resentment, cynicism and desire for revenge be of any positive value to you? No matter what malicious intentions others may have, you can decide whether or not to let them affect you. You can give in to the pettiness, spend your energy fighting it or worrying about it, or you can rise above it, freeing your energy and effectiveness for more meaningful things, for accomplishment, for fulfillment of your dreams.

Of course there are things that make you angry. Certainly you can take steps to change those things you find unacceptable. But that does not mean that you must live and act out of anger. Spite and pettiness are just not effective strategies for success, and the farther you get away from them, the better.

Calm down. Rise above the little, insignificant things. You’re better than that. Your time is more important than that. Focus your thoughts in the direction of fulfillment and accomplishment. The ridiculous actions of others are not your concern. If they’re causing a problem for you, then get yourself in a position where you won’t be affected by them. Focus on the truly important things, and you’ll be much more effective in everything you do.

Think about how important learning can be in increasing your effectiveness. Learn, learn, learn. Learn from others. Learn from your experience — especially from your mistakes. Learn from reading. Learn from experimenting and trying new things. Learn from the challenges. Learn from the successes. Learn what works and what doesn’t. Learn why. Learn about yourself. Learn about others. Every day is full of lessons to be learned, lessons that will improve your performance and your effectiveness. Don’t pass up those opportunities to learn. What you learn is always yours and will continue paying dividends for your entire lifetime. Learn all you can, and never stop.
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